I don’t think I’ve read enough of Rose Tremain’s books to really describe myself as a fan or as any kind of expert on her work, but I’ve enjoyed the little I’ve read by her – Restoration and Merivel, her two novels set in 17th century England and France, and The Gustav Sonata, set in Switzerland before, during and after the Second World War – so I decided to give her recent memoir, Rosie, a try.
Judging purely by the cover and the subtitle Scenes from a Vanished Life, I was expecting something light, charming and nostalgic, but the reality was very different and the book left me feeling quite sad. It’s a slim book covering only the first eighteen years of the author’s life and I think it’s fair to say that Rose – or Rosie, as she was known when she was younger – didn’t have the happiest start to life. Born into an upper-middle-class family, with all the privilege and opportunity that comes with that, the one thing Rosie lacks is parental love. She is ten years old when her playwright father, Keith, leaves her mother, Jane, for a younger woman. Jane quickly remarries and sends Rosie and her sister, Jo, to boarding school, an incident Tremain thinks of as ‘The Great Casting Away’ and which she describes with both resentment and an attempt to understand:
When we were safely away in our cold dormitories at Crofton Grange, she and her friends could forget all about their children’s future. Instead, they could go to plays, go to films, go to restaurants, get drunk at lunchtime, flirt, shop, swear, take taxis, waste money, go dancing, have sex, and wander through London in the dawn light, laughing, determined to forget the war that had stolen their youth and so many of the people they’d loved.
The child Rosie is often hurt and confused by her mother’s actions, and not much has changed by the time she reaches adulthood; when her first play is broadcast on BBC radio in 1976, Jane says she is too busy to listen as she is going out to lunch that day. Rosie does acknowledge, however, that her mother’s lack of affection for her could be partly due to her own upbringing. Many of Rosie’s childhood memories revolve around holidays spent at her maternal grandparents’ home, Linkenholt Manor, but it quickly becomes clear that it is the house that holds a special place in her heart and not her grandparents themselves. Mabel and Roland Dudley, Jane’s parents, are depicted as cold, stern people who have struggled to move on from the loss of their two sons and see their daughter as a poor substitute; their granddaughters interest them even less. I found this so sad because my own childhood relationship with my grandparents was completely different – warm and loving and full of fun. The only love Rosie seems to receive comes from her nanny, Vera Sturt, and I was glad that she had at least one person who cared about her, although even this relationship was lost when she was sent away to boarding school.
As the title of the book suggests, the world of Tremain’s childhood is a world that has now largely vanished. Her account of her school days, of beliefs and attitudes and of society in general could only have been written by someone growing up in the 1950s and belonging to a certain class. As Rosie becomes a young adult and sets her sights on attending Oxford University, she sees her dreams shattered yet again when her mother insists on sending her to a Swiss ‘finishing school’ instead. Jane doesn’t see the need for her daughter to continue her education when all a woman needs to do to succeed in life is to find a rich husband.
Despite her privileged background then, Tremain still had obstacles to overcome as she grew from Rosie into Rose and embarked on her writing career. Because her memoir ends before the publication of her first book, she doesn’t spend a lot of time discussing her writing, but she does give us a few insights into how incidents, people and places from her early life later found their way into her novels. I’m sure this would have meant more to me if I had read more of her work! The book ends very abruptly, which was disappointing as I would have liked to have continued to follow Rose through her adult years. Still, it was interesting getting to know the young Rosie and her world. I will have to read more of her books soon; if there are any you would recommend please let me know.
Thanks to Vintage Publishing for providing a copy of this book for review via NetGalley.
17 thoughts on “Rosie: Scenes from a Vanished Life by Rose Tremain”
I wonder if she intends writing a second memoir? I hope so. Although this does sound a sad childhood, I’m always interested in writer’s lives.
This book ended very suddenly so I do hope it’s just the first volume and she will write another one about her adult life.
This sounds interesting, although I have read exactly as much Tremain as you have.
Her books always sound appealing to me, but I can never seem to get around to reading them.
I don’t think I’ve liked them quite as much as you have.
I have always meant to read Rose Tremain but somehow never got to her. All her titles are in My Big Fat Reading Project lists so I will get to her eventually. It seems that sad childhoods are the engine of many books I have loved.
I hope you enjoy her books when you get to them in your reading project.
I’ve only read one book by her – Merivel, which I really liked so I should have read more by now. It sounds like this book is just the beginning of her life story, and sadly it’s not all that unusual for people of that class to have more love from servants than their own relatives. I’ll definitely read this one so thanks for writing about it.
Yes, it just shows that money isn’t everything. Merivel is my favourite of the books I’ve read by Tremain so far but I’m looking forward to reading more.
I have read Tremain, just not this one. Sounds sad a bit though.
Yes, it was sad that she had so little love in her life as a child.
Not a happy book but such struggle happen more often that one would like to think and sometimes they build the foundation for great things. I have not read her book but I will now! Thank You for a great review!
Yes, it’s sad to think that there are a lot of people with childhoods like Rosie’s, but at least it didn’t stop her from achieving good things as an adult.
Sigh. Another author I’ve never read. Maybe someday? 🙂
I have lots of those authors too! I hope you have a chance to read something by Rose Tremain one day. 🙂
This sounds sad but terrific, how fabulous that she became a university chancellor after having her own educational ambitions cut short. I read one of her books a few years ago but this has inspired me to read more. The role of the nanny/housekeeper is often so important, all very interesting – thank you!
Yes – it must have been so frustrating and disappointing for her being prevented from going to university, but at least she had more chances later on. I need to read more of her books too!